Tonight Gregory and I went to dinner at Bridges Bali, a delightful restaurant that we had lunch at last Friday. We returned because the service, food, atmosphere and location were impeccable. Quite the combination if you get it all right. Having had the entrée of rare roast lamb and the main of Thai-inspired grilled Barramundi, we settled for espressos and Cointreau chocolate mousse. Yes, mousse.
And it was during the mousse, yes – mousse, that the conversation turned to one we’d had a number of times in the past, about marriage and our thoughts on it. Yet, this time, there was a different tone to the conversation. Gregory became a little more serious and actually asked me if I’d marry him, not if I’d ever marry him, but if I’d actually marry him. The sort of question that demanded a yes answer, here and now.
Oh, I thought, this is the real thing, not a humorous conversation, but an actual marriage proposal. I think I started to cry and was trying to maintain my composure between polite interruptions from the impeccably appointed wait-staff who clearly weren’t trained in the art of detecting a marriage proposal between two middle-aged men. Wiping away the odd tear or two I said yes and continued trying to untangle the mass of emotions that had beset me, amidst what could only be described as one of the most idyllic moments of my life.
A quick phone-call from me back to Australia to let the folks know and a quick text message or two from Gregory back to his kids and sister and the deal was sealed. I have to say, finding the courage to make that phone call, and finding the actual words to say were amazingly more fraught than I would ever have expected. But having announced our engagement felt good, and it felt right. I couldn’t think of a better man to be engaged to get married to.
Of course, the question has been asked, in which country will you guys get married. Not a question most engaged couples get asked I suspect, because the expectation is they would celebrate their nuptials at home, wherever that was for them. Yet for us two Australians, getting married at home is not so straightforward, because there is no legal option for us to do this in Australia currently. We may be able to get married in a foreign consulate in Australia, but that wouldn’t be on Australian soil, and there wouldn’t be the stunningly beautiful Australian Coat of Arms on that marriage certificate.
It was a very simple decision for us. We are going to get married to each other in Australia, under Australian law, on Australian soil. It may be in the next three years, or it may be longer, but it will happen in both our lifetimes and most likely sooner than later.
We haven’t exchanged rings. We probably won’t. Rings are not our style. We did get an ‘engagement ring’ from Facebook though, when we made that irrevocable and gay announcement to our social networks:
So, thank you Gregory, you’ve changed my life, tonight, and every day since we met on that Tuesday in November 2008. I love you.
P.S. I can’t believe my enjoyment of the perfect chocolate mousse was interrupted by a marriage proposal. Honestly. Timing!
Dear Mr Alexander,
Almost three years ago you gave your first speech to the Parliament and people of Australia as the Member for Bennelong. Allow me to reflect on a few sections of your address.
Fittingly, you gave thanks to the people of your electorate and promised to serve them fairly:
It is an honour to be in this position, and I am truly grateful to the people of Bennelong for the trust and faith that they have placed in me. However, that honour is immediately replaced with a deep sense of responsibility to do my best, with integrity, honesty and fairness.
Later, in relating your tennis travels through Europe you reflected on a particularly poignant moment:
We played in Poland and were taken to Auschwitz by Harry’s friend from before the war. He cried and we cried.
and in Africa, you tell of discrimination:
I learnt of discrimination travelling to South Africa with Arthur Ashe. He had been granted a visa declaring him an ‘honorary white’. In Arthur’s home town I practised on the adjoining court at the Richmond Country Club; he was the first African-American allowed to play there.
You paint a picture of how your travels around the world as a sportsman have guided you to understand diversity and how this dovetails with the vibrant diversity of Bennelong:
It is these experiences that have provided me with the opportunity for a real life education and has served as preparation for my role as a representative of one of Australia’s most diverse and multicultural electorates. Bennelong boasts nearly every language and culture, attained through a strong history of migration dating back to the English settlers. People have come from every part of the world to make Australia their home. In many ways, Bennelong is modern Australia.
Bennelong perfectly reflects the diversity and harmony we are so proud of in this country. Why do people leave all that is familiar to go half way around the world to start over again? They bring their dreams for a better life for themselves and their families. They bring their courage to ‘have a go’, with the odds stacked against them, playing so far from home. Our new Australians bring energy, effort, innovation and, most of all, their hopes. Every soul who comes to our country enriches us and continues the constant redefining of what it is to be Australian.
You share the wisdom of your mentor Harry Hopman and of your friend Alan Jones and how this relates not only to how you play in tennis but also in politics:
Playing safe may achieve a short-term goal against inferior opposition, but the ultimate goal would be lost. As Alan Jones says, ‘To win without risk is victory without glory.’
You spoke of opportunities and of being our best:
To realise our country’s full potential, every Australian must have the opportunity to compete and earn just reward for their effort and success.
and you spoke of having visions:
Let us debate in this chamber a contest of ideas, a contest of visions. As with any endeavour in life, true and honest competition unfettered by political bias will produce, in this case, the best plan and the best result for our nation’s future. We need the courage to attack this challenge. It has been ignored for too long. To shirk this responsibility, to say it is too tough, would be an affront to those who fought to make Australia what it is today—our forefathers, who had a plan, an optimistic vision, and who made the most of their opportunity to have a go.
In summing up, you spoke of your children, and of the children of Australia, of their dreams, of opportunities and of wanting the best for them:
What do I want for my children? What I want for every Australian: opportunity—the opportunity to pursue their dreams, whatever they are, and not be restrained by their age, their sex or their colour. Opportunity is to be able to have a go. Opportunity without discrimination is to be given a fair go. We here have much work to do.
Thank you for an ace of a speech Mr Alexander.
I grew up and live in Melbourne, the first Australian-born in my family, of immigrant parents. My mum and dad settled in Australia in 1973 for a better life, with hopes and aspirations for themselves and their children. They came via Rhodesia, a country that had an unstable political horizon and felt it was not the place to raise a family. My Australian birth some four years earlier helped them make the decision to return here.
In my household sport was a life-blood. My parents adopted North Melbourne as their football team and of many sports at their disposal to support they adopted tennis with an amazing passion. I was not a sporting child, that was my brother, but I grew up knowing the names of many tennis greats, watching with them many tennis tournaments and sharing with them many highs, and lows, of the game. It was one of the more enjoyable parts of my teen years, a troubled part of my life.
Mr Alexander, your speech, your visions, your hopes and your aspirations are great. You have learned much through your life’s journey, and you bring that with you to public office. Yet you leave me confused, as the great sportsman that you are, where you learned to play fair and where fairness features in your values, why you do not feel compelled to want to treat all Australians equally.
I talk of the right for any Australian to be able to legally marry the one person of their choice, without regard to gender, under civil law.
It would seem you have tried to avoid this issue at best, at worst you’ve joined the ranks of those who don’t speak out for equality, rather, preferring to call for an inferior form of relationship recognition for non-heterosexual relationships.
In 2010, News Ltd surveyed the people of Bennelong and found 39% were in favour of same-sex marriage and 21% were indifferent to it. That’s a whopping 60% of your electorate you won’t be disappointing if you support same-sex marriage. Clearly a majority.
What of your lessons from touring Auschwitz and South Africa Mr Alexander? Members of my extended family burned in the ovens of Auschwitz. I don’t need to tell you of the reality of that particular time of persecution in human history but it might help spark a moment of reflection and compassion if I do.
You write of honorary whites. Not only did the buses in South Africa have a back, but they also had a slightly back, mostly back, nearly at the back, and a “so far back you could think you were in the bus when you weren’t actually in it at all” back as well, depending on just how much your skin wasn’t shiny white. You may have even heard of how the government decided at one point it wasn’t going to persecute citizens on whether their skin was white or not, so it labelled everyone green, then decided some were dark green and others light green.
Mr Alexander, what of vision, of hopes, of a fairer Australia where personal attributes are not a limiting factor, where children can have dreams and one day realise them? What of the dreams for your children and for theirs?
What of the dream my parents had, and still have, that one day I might meet someone I want to marry. At 44 I now have that special person in my life, his name is Gregory, and I want the right to be able to ask him to marry me. But I can’t. I don’t have that freedom, that opportunity, that right, because apparently I’m not worthy of it, for some inexplicable reason. I am not looking to have children or start a family and Gregory has two grown-up children he parented mostly as a single dad.
Mr Alexander, you are playing a safe game in not supporting marriage equality. You are not taking a risk and chancing a greater victory for all Australians. Federal Politics is now your tennis court and sadly you are not scoring the points that will bring a win for, in your words, opportunity without discrimination, to the people of Bennelong and to our nation.
You are sitting on a 3.1% margin in your seat. You are far from guaranteed a return. With 39% of your electorate in support of marriage equality and with marriage equality being increasingly shown to be a vote winner around the nation, it would bode you well to show unreserved support for a change to the federal Marriage Act that removes all forms of discrimination.
I will finish up by mentioning that in the darkest of moments during my teenage years, the one candle of brightness for me, my role model of greatness, was tennis champion Martina Navratilova. I could identify with her, as I struggled to come to terms with my sexual orientation. It wasn’t her sporting prowess that inspired me the most though, it was her honesty and integrity. I would like to add the name John Alexander alongside Martina Navratilova. Please, show me your honesty and your integrity.
August 14 2013
Dear Mr Neumann,
Some five and a half years ago you gave your first speech to Parliament. It started with your thanks to the people of Blair for placing their trust in you, a representative of the Labor party:
Mr Speaker, it is an honour to stand here today and speak in this chamber as the first ever Labor member for Blair. I am keenly aware of the trust, duty and obligation bestowed upon me by the people of Blair. They voted decisively for change on 24 November, delivering a 10.2 per cent swing to Labor. With emphatic purpose they chose a better way. They voted not for fear and pessimism but for hope and optimism. They voted not for the past but for the future.
You spoke to fresh beginnings, and looking forward, not backward. You also spoke of your Christian identity, but to maintaining a secular government:
I respect those who hold views which may differ from my own, and I hold firmly—in a good Baptist tradition—to the separation of church and state.
You told us what you believe, of equality and civil liberties:
What do I believe? I believe in reconciliation with our Indigenous peoples. I believe in a republic with an Australian head of state. I believe in multiculturalism. I believe in equal rights for women. I believe in civil liberties. I believe that the rights of the Australian people should be protected by a bill of rights. I believe the law must be utilitarian. I believe the law must help, not hurt.
You spoke of doing more to help people:
I believe in a pragmatic, progressive Labor Party dedicated to practical policies to help people …
and you spoke of working hard, doing more, serving the people and being an upstanding Labor politician:
I have come here to work. I have come here to make a difference. I have come here to make change. I have come here to advocate for the causes in which I believe. I have come here to represent my local community. I have come here to deliver for the people of Blair. I have come here to serve and honour the greatest political institution in this land: the Australian Labor Party.
Mr Neumann, your words impress. More should share these values. However I am troubled because as good as it is to hear what you said to the people in 2008, your subsequent actions disappoint. You see, in 2012 you were one of the 98 against marriage equality and yesterday you reiterated your opposition.
In 2012 the News Ltd Poll on Same-Sex Marriage reported a 44% level of support in Blair, 37% against and 19% indifferent. That’s 63% not opposed. Yet you claim your polling on same-sex marriage found 84% against and 16% in favour. Your polling is in stark contrast to the New Ltd Poll and various polls by Galaxy.
Mr Neumann, where is the hope and optimism, the better future, for the 44% of your electorate who want equal marriage laws for themselves, their children, their friends and their families? Where is the equality, respect and the civil liberties in voting against marriage equality? How are you helping people by taking a stance that is rooted in the past, not the future? And please, tell me, how is this stance supporting a secular perspective, where the church is kept out of government?
Lastly, I ask you, how is upholding a law that hurts people, consistent with your values of supporting laws that help, not hurt?
Mr Neumann, sadly you have not kept your promise to the people of Blair and the people of Australia. You have also betrayed yourself, and that must be a hard pill to swallow. I ask you to reflect on your values, look to the promises you made and the values you claim to uphold, and ask yourself how voting against marriage equality is a consistent position to take, most especially when it is not a value of the Labor Party.
August 13, 2013
Dear Mr Thomson,
A little over 17 years ago you addressed the Parliament and people of Australia for the first time. Kindly allow me to reflect on a few concepts in your first speech.
Appropriately you thanked those who helped elect you, the people your purpose is to serve. You noted it’s the everyday things that can make the difference:
First, I would like to thank the people of the electorate of Wills for the confidence that they have shown in me by electing me.
The people of Wills have had the opportunity to see me in action as a member of the state parliament for the past seven years and before that as a Coburg councillor. Many have told me that they voted for me because they liked my attention to local work and to ordinary constituent problems, no matter how trivial they may seem. That places on me a responsibility to continue that work, and I place on record here my intention to continue doing just that.
You spoke on the past sufferings of those who chose Australia for their new home, a land where they could be live happier than their forebears and have greater freedoms:
Thirdly, I want to say something about why we are all here—not in this parliament but in this continent. Although Australia is an old continent it is in fact a very young nation. I think the reasons why we are all here tell us something about what our public policy objectives ought to be. So why are we here on this island? We came here because we, our parents or a previous generation came to escape features of our former societies which were intolerable and came here in search of new opportunity.
You spoke of equality and generosity:
Some of us have come in search of social equality, from countries with stifling class systems, countries in which power, wealth and opportunity were concentrated in the hands of a few. So we owe to ourselves a spirit of generosity and compassion towards those who are less well off and a spirit of cooperation between employer and employee. We do not need the dog-eat-dog mentality of America, or Britain’s underclass.
You spoke of freedoms:
Some of us have come in search of democracy and freedom of expression, fleeing totalitarian regimes, military dictatorships and countries in which rigid conformism was the order of the day. So we owe to ourselves freedom of expression, freedom of association and the right to join trade unions, and we also owe to ourselves respect for differing points of view.
You spoke of repression and also of tolerance and respect:
Some of us have come in search of racial and religious tolerance, escaping ethnic conflict and brutal tribal repression. So, finally, and perhaps in the present age of atrocities in Yugoslavia and other parts of Europe, Asia and Africa most importantly, we owe to ourselves the creation of a community based on mutual tolerance, respect and understanding.
Mr Thomson, your first speech is commendable as it shows you have a strong social conscience and that you care about the people of Australia. However it perturbs me that given your values, you do not support equal rights for all Australians. Nearly one year ago, on September 19 2012, you were one of the 98 who voted against marriage equality. Why?
You told us that you care for what your electorate wants. Overwhelmingly they want marriage equality. The 2010 New Ltd Same-Sex Marriage Poll shows 57% of voters in Wills want marriage equality. Together with the 18% of voters who are indifferent, 75% of voters in Wills are not against marriage equality.
You said you care about the ordinary things that matter. For many people, being able to live a dignified existence, in a relationship with the person they love, is very very ordinary. It’s not about winning the Nobel Prize or climbing Mt Everest. It’s about being a person in society, the same as everyone else. Getting married and sharing that experience with your friends and family is pretty darn ordinary if you ask me. Putting a ring on it and having a few photos, that’s ordinary stuff Mr Thomson.
What happened to your concern for equality, for generosity, freedoms, escaping repression, showing tolerance, respect and understanding? I trust you still hold true to those values. But I don’t see you showing them, because Mr Thomson, on September 19 2012 you voted against equality. On that day you showed an absence of generosity, you were unprepared to revoke the repressive legislation restricting the freedoms of all Australians on who they can choose to marry, and you showed an unfortunate lack of tolerance, respect and understanding.
Mr Thomson, my partner Gregory has a sister who lives in your electorate of Wills. She passionately wants to be able to see us get married. I would be surprised if she entertained the very thought of voting for a person who actively denied us the right to get married. 57% of your electorate also want to see people like us be able to get married. Are you so comfortable in your seat that you can afford to casually dismiss the views of the majority of the people you are elected to represent?
September 7 2013 is Judgement Day Mr Thomson. Wouldn’t you rather you were returned to office, especially because you supported equality and freedoms? It’s an easy decision to make and doing so will put you on the right side of history. It’s never too late to say sorry and make amends.
August 8, 2013
Dear Ms Gambaro,
Some 17 years ago, in your first speech to Parliament and the people of Australia you made the following statement:
I was delighted to achieve a swing of 12.59 per cent in Petrie. Su Mon Wong, your words stay with me always: marketing is giving people what they want. The reason the coalition won by such an overwhelming majority is that we listened to people and their needs and we gave Australians what they wanted. As social analyst Hugh Mackay has said, people are more likely to listen to us if we listen to them.
You went on to say:
We must not forget our youth, their dreams, their ambitions and their self-esteem. Bert Weir, a personal friend and teacher of mental strength to the staff of businesses and government organisations all over Australia, in his book What happened?, said:
Kindness, generosity, ability to cooperate, inquisitiveness, confidence, sense of humour, creativity and calmness are only some of the . . . important qualities of human worth. How often are these praised? For a child to have a strong, balanced sense of self-esteem, it must be anchored in many different aspects of human beauty and worth.
Reflecting on these statements, and the 56% support for marriage equality in your seat of Brisbane (News Ltd Poll – Same-Sex Marrige 2010) along with the other 19% not opposed to marriage equality, how can genuinely say you are listening to the people in your electorate and giving them what they want? It sounds more like a case of you not listening to your electorate and not giving them what they want.
As for the youth in Brisbane, these fragile and beautiful people who all to easily fall by the wayside as collateral damage of political expediency and the ego of the self-absorbed politician, what are you doing to further their dreams, their ambition and their self-esteem? The alarming rates of youth suicide in this country, especially amongst same-sex attracted youth, tell me that you are actually doing nothing.
Dear Ms Gambaro, I am thoroughly disappointed, nay, I am disgusted, that you are taking your electorate for fools. You are sitting on 1.1% margin and honestly, you do not deserve to be re-elected. Give your voters the representation you promised them. Give them marriage equality, and you may redeem yourself.
August 3, 2013
Dear Mr Hunt,
A decade and a bit ago, on a Monday probably just after lunch, you gave your first speech to the Parliament and people of Australia.
It opened with fond words of people who had made a significant impact on you, people important to you in your community, your friends.
It is where I was born, it is where I was raised and it is where I have returned. What I have rediscovered is that Flinders is not the story of geography, beautiful as it is; it is the story of people, great people, many of whom have touched my life and have taught me the true meaning of community spirit—people whom I call friends.
You expressed a concern for youth:
… all about providing opportunities for our young.
And spoke of meeting common challenges:
One of our guiding values must be compassion, and the heart of compassion is the expansion of people’s liberty
You drew on the wisdom of Menzies and his vision for the betterment of society:
There is absolutely no compassion in a system which, as Menzies described it, `discourages ambition, envies success and distrusts independent thought’.
You spoke of freedom, opportunity, dreams, liberty and love:
So the expansion of people’s liberty is about creating both opportunity and the capacity to exercise that opportunity. With that liberty comes aspiration: the capacity to dream and to hope. And hope is arguably the greatest of all freedoms. That is why William Hazlitt said, `The love of liberty is the love of others.’
You told us what you stand for:
I am for liberalism—clearly, simply, unequivocally.
and its benefits:
liberalism leads to greater fairness …
You continued to explain about how to build a fairer society, about not clinging to the past, about having an open mind:
… we have to have an open society. We have to believe in our capacity to reform, to adapt and to embrace the future, not to cling to outmoded ideas and structures.
With pride you told us again about the value of community to you and about representing the whole community:
I have been granted the opportunity to serve in this chamber by the grace of the electors of Flinders. I thank them for their trust and I pledge to serve as a representative for the whole community.
Then you brought together your ideals and aspirations powerfully and eloquently:
In weaving their stories together, the goal is hope, the vision is an open society and the path is along policies that encourage liberty. If I can assist my constituents and the wider community towards those ends then that will be enough.
Mr Hunt, I admire your words. And like you, I care about the people of Flinders, the people of Victoria and the people of Australia. I care about the welfare of our youth, deeply. I care about the happiness of our community, their ability to succeed in their hopes and aspirations and about their liberty. Like you, I care.
And yet, I am confused. I am confused because in all of the care you have for the welfare of your community, for their hopes and aspirations, for their liberty and for fairness, you have told us that you don’t believe all the people in Flinders and wider should enjoy the same freedoms and liberties. In short, you told us not quite a year ago that you believe some people should be treated differently:
My view, and I have said this before so it’s not a new position it’s what I’ve held for a long while, is that the right step at some stage will be civil unions. I think that will deal with the concerns of those who have a belief that within the church they have a deep commitment to the notion of marriage and with equality in real terms in terms of rights. So my view is that the likely course of action, and one which I would support, is civil unions.
You told us that some people in Flinders shouldn’t be able to enjoy the same liberties as the rest. I don’t quite see the fairness here. Nor do I see how these people can share in the same hopes and dreams as everyone else. And with a lesser liberty, they have a lesser ability to express their love.
In 2010 the News Ltd Same-Sex Marriage Poll told us 45% of your constituents supported same-sex marriage and that 16% didn’t care about the issue. What that means is 61% of voters in your electorate are not opposed to same-sex marriage.
Mr Hunt, your words of 2002 are good. Your words a decade later, not so much. Have you forgotten about your friends in Flinders, the community and its youth that was so important to you that day, a bit after lunch, when you entered Parliament?
Just yesterday you hosted a Youth Mental Health Forum at Dromana Secondary College with Professor Patrick McGorry. You said:
“youth suicide is way too high in Australia and we want to help young people understand there is help available when dealing with personal issues.”
Mr Hunt, some of these youth you talk about who are killing themselves are doing so in part because society tells them they are not equal, that they are not the same, that they are not able to celebrate their love the same as their siblings, their friends and their family.
Mr Hunt, your views on marriage equality, the views that tell young gay boys and girls, transgender and intersex youth, that they should be satisfied with civil unions and should not be allowed to get married, are the very views that lower their self-esteem, increase their rates of mental-health issues and ultimately drive them to take their lives. If you don’t believe me, ask the experts.
Please Mr Hunt, show the people of Flinders, the people of Victoria and the people of Australia that all yours words are genuine and that you do care. The simplest and most effective way you can do this is by supporting marriage equality.
From: Michael Barnett <firstname.lastname@example.org>
Date: 3 June 2013 00:25
Subject: An important matter concerning the people of Chifley and all Australians
To: Ed Husic MP <email@example.com>
June 2 2013
Dear Mr Husic,
I am writing to you not as a voter in Chifley or even as a resident of New South Wales. I seek your attention simply as a fellow human.
My aim here is to take you on a journey of reflection and purpose. I would like you to give me a few minutes of your time and afterwards, at your convenience, hope to hear your frank thoughts.
I want to take you back to early in the afternoon of October 28, 2010. No doubt a memorable day in your professional life.
In addressing the parliament and people of our great nation, you made reference to “new paradigms” in the very first sentence of your first speech:
While we are no longer able to caucus together, we can still test who has the better shot—somewhere else, where standing orders and new paradigms do not dictate the outcome.
Such a powerful concept. It talks to new ways of thinking, new ways of seeing the world and new concepts. Please hold that thought for a moment.
Then you went on to talk of community improvement and enrichment:
… the application of education joined with a commitment to improvement of the self and others has allowed residents in neighbourhoods from Mt Druitt through Blacktown and up to Marsden Park the chance to see beyond the present to a richer future.
It’s rewarding to see you value and recognise people’s love of family, those near and dear to them, and again, improvement thereof:
I admire so much within the people I have the privilege to represent: the value they place on reward after hard work; their decency; their dignity; their faith and love of family; and their support for their neighbours, their community and those ‘having a go’ to make something better.
You invoke the wisdom of Chifley, including his desire to see the Labor movement create new conditions for the Australian people, at considerable expense to the party:
“The urgency that rests behind the Labor movement, pushing it on to do things, to create new conditions, to reorganise the economy of the country, always means that the people who work within the Labor movement, people who lead, can never have an easy job.”
and further, from Chifley, on human happiness:
“The most that we can do is to help the masses of the people and give to them some sense of security and some degree of human happiness.
You talk of parents who have given their all, in blood, sweat and tears, to see their children be able to live a better, happier, healthier life than their own:
Sons and daughters of the blue-collar workers of this country have witnessed that ambition spur on their own parents and then spark within them an ethic of effort, service and sacrifice.
Your mention of education and training brings you to it’s purpose, the prospects of the nation’s youth:
The trade training centres demonstrate, in part, we have an ear to history and a heart for the future of our young.
And in talking about disability it is clear that people’s quality of life is important to you:
… or working to help lift the quality of life for people with a disability and their carers.
Again you hark to improving the opportunities and lives of the plentiful youth in Chifley:
These issues demand my focus because they stand as challenges to our young and Chifley is a young electorate, with a third of its residents aged 19 or under—the second most ‘youthful’ electorate in our nation. We must seize every opportunity to help them fulfil their promise and potential.
You talk of how you can repay your community:
Both of us committed to giving something back to the areas we have been raised in and are still tied so closely to.
and of providing a better place for all Australians by looking to amend the errors of our past:
While we are brought here as individual representatives, we bear a collective responsibility to national life and fortune. Pressing issues affecting the country bind us in national mission. Looming before us is the challenge of environmental repair, the task of addressing the impact of climate change. Regardless of the accumulated contributions of generations before, we are now called upon to correct the damage done.
With great insight you acknowledge that sometimes important issues are bypassed for political convenience. You also acknowledge that the people don’t forget when good things happens and by whom (and by corollary, similarly the bad).
We will either take decisions on this matter now or avoid them. In so doing, we will either liberate generations of Australians from a poorer future or consign them to it. On this issue, I am conscious of those who are to follow us. I would hope they would judge us in the way we proudly remember Australian generations of times gone past who said that, ‘We bore sacrifice to ensure that our children’s children could live their lives as richly if not better than us.’
Again you talk of Labor’s desire to improve the nation, being the ones to do it first, and of taking the socially responsible actions:
Growing up I saw how Labor governments of the eighties and nineties appealed to a sense of national purpose to build a better country. We are drawn now to what I would describe as a generational purpose. We cannot be distracted by the notion of waiting for others before committing to action ourselves—seduced to embrace a form of ‘climate change isolationism’, to make us shirk our responsibilities—as if hoping our consciences will be secure in blaming others for our own unwillingness to take up our environmental obligations.
Clearly the theme running through your speech, and through your psyche, is on building and improving the nation, on individual freedoms, community cohesiveness and maximising our collective experience:
I argue that the question of how we organise ourselves to improve society continues to evolve. We are now driven by a new quest to establish a balance between the hunger for individual freedom and the need for us to act collectively. My overarching desire is to ensure our collective actions can help individuals and their communities reap their full potential.
Perhaps the crux of your speech, from my perspective, where you allude to the qualities I would hope every politician brings to public office, that of respect, open-mindedness, vision, humility and humanity:
My fundamental world view rests—at its core—on the notion of balance. I do not just tolerate alternate views; I remain open to them, I learn from and grow from them—and I value differences in our society and in our debates about the future of our society. We should celebrate our different skills and ideas, while realising that at some point we must combine our energies and effort for the sake of community and country.
With succinct clarity you speak of political short-sightedness, of taking the convenient path over the path of greatest merit:
And politicians cannot expect that perpetual electoral victory through short-term, tactical wins at the expense of hard but necessary reform will honour the country we love and work for.
Again, your insight is visionary. You talk of the ills of fear-mongering, of being courageous, of making sacrifices and again, of enrichment:
Fear is not what should be used to win or run government. It is what we beat back with the courage within government; courage to prove we can be better than who we are. Ultimately, we are all in this journey together. We will make sacrifices together and we will be enriched together.
You talk of the legislature, of civic responsibilities, of suppressing liberties and of balance:
The laws of this land have a big part to play in bringing back some balance. If we all have a stake in the success of our country we should ensure we savour a fair share of that success. In this place, this issue remains a critical concern to me because, with respect, we are not—as some would describe—a ‘market democracy.’ We are a democracy which operates a market economy. We have civic responsibilities and economic priorities. It is worth remembering that in some parts of the world, the hand of the market works one way while another hand suppresses the liberties of those that live and work within it. Again, a concentration on balance should guide the decisions we make in this House.
With great pride you speak of the sacrifices your parents have made to give you and your siblings the best opportunities in life:
Mum and Dad, I dedicate this speech to you, your dreams, your journey, your toil:
… no migrant undertakes the dislocation and sacrifice to reach these shores and set up a new life upon them with any aim other than to provide a better life for their family …
You go on to speak of possibilities and what we can achieve when we aspire for the best in each other:
When we harness all the goodwill and talent across all the corners of this land, from the first owners to the recently arrived, we build one of the greatest countries on the planet.
Again you draw on sagacity, this time from Dame Enid Lyons, in regard to legacy:
“I am aware that as I acquit myself in the work I have undertaken for the next three years, so I shall either prejudice or enhance the prospects of those who wish to follow me in public service …”
You talk of responsibility to community, representation and again on improvement and building greatness:
I would hope to acquit myself in the way that any other member would seek to in this place where my faith, and its emphasis on bettering ourselves within an acknowledgement of responsibility to community, will be my companion in my efforts to represent all the residents of the diverse electorate I am honoured to represent, regardless of their background, respectful of their faith and values, without reference to their vote for my party or not, and supporting those efforts designed to build a greater community for our area.
And lastly, in words that I could not write better than you:
In drawing my contribution to a close, I make these final remarks. Life has taught me about the power contained within the black letter of the law, recognising implicitly that these laws may enhance or constrict individual or collective freedoms. Our decisions can and do impact on the lives of others and the way they live their lives. My preference will always be for government to bring in laws that aid individuals in pursuing their endeavours, exercising the greatest breadth of their freedoms, found upon a pre-eminent aim of enhancing the quality of life for communities across the country. The exercise of individual will best occurs within a framework of considered decision making along with accountability and responsibility for individual actions, particularly where there is a potential for impacting on the well being of self and others.
Mr Husic, your speech was good. I hope you reflect on it’s values frequently, as I am confident they embody your essence.
Just recapping, in your first speech to the nation you spoke of new paradigms, community improvement, betterment, family and love, self-sacrifice, happiness, generational improvement, prospects for the nation’s youth, repaying the community, amending the errors of our past, political convenience and the harm it can wreak, fear-mongering, courage, civic responsibilities, suppressing liberties, parental sacrifice, aspiration for the best, lasting legacies, responsibility to community, and most importantly, of freedoms.
By now you will be wondering why I have led you on this journey. Let me explain.
Like yourself, I too am the parents of immigrants. I was born in the same 12 month period as you and so no doubt, we likely have seen a similar experience growing up as Australians.
My parents speak English as their first language and were born in English speaking countries, but their parents and grand-parents came from tiny Eastern European villages. My parents and their ancestors left many countries – Russia, Poland, Lithuania, England, New Zealand and Rhodesia – often in times of war, or with the spectre of it looming, to give their children the same better life that yours wanted for you.
Many in my family were not so lucky, as it was not just their dreams that went up in smoke. And others, they escaped the horrors by hiding in forests and living on instinct and adrenalin.
I understand some of my extended family even survived Siberian camps for being political dissidents. Can you imagine that sort of nightmare, just for daring to speak out against the political views of the day?
I mention this because you and I are the product of survivors, of people who against the odds, gave of themselves at huge personal expense, simply so they could see a better life for their children.
To my point. Mr Husic, in all of what you have eloquently written, in all of what you stand for, in personal and political life, I ask of you to reflect on this journey and put it in the context of how supporting change to the law to allow any two consenting adults the right to marry each other will be in line with the values you stand for.
I ask you to put aside any prejudices you may hold, and similarly any prejudices the people of Chifley may hold, and simply reflect on the values I have led you through here. In doing so, think about any sacrifice to the party that may be necessary to achieve a better outcome for the community. Think about the values your mentor in Chifley instilled in you, of new conditions and of human happiness.
Remember, in your own words, that your preference “will always be for government to bring in laws that aid individuals in pursuing their endeavours, exercising the greatest breadth of their freedoms, found upon a pre-eminent aim of enhancing the quality of life for communities across the country.”
Linked to intolerance of homosexuality is the chilling reality of youth suicide, self-harm and mental health issues. These are devastating for individuals, families and their communities.
Linked to intolerance of giving equal rights to same-sex couples is homophobia and the devastation that can accompany that in the form of physical and emotional violence perpetrated against those who are confident enough to express their affection for each other in public, whether it be by way of declaration of their relationship, holding hands or any other form of physical display of affection.
On the other side, there is a distinct advantage to the self, to the family and to the community by legislating for equality. There is the increase in personal well-being, inclusion in society on an equal basis, equality within the family and the community, economic benefits, and so on.
There is also the associated decrease in all the above mentioned negative factors. In particular, a decrease in the rate of youth suicide in Australia could not come soon enough.
Mr Husic, if you truly are committed to working for the betterment of your community, if you wish to correct a few errors of the past, if you want to give something to those parents who want the best for their children, and if you want to leave a lasting legacy for doing what is good for your community, not just what is good for you or your party, you will stand on the side of equality and put your name to removing all discrimination from the Federal Marriage Act.
`No way’ to gay marriage
LABOR POLLIES GIVE THUMBS DOWN TO BILL
Blacktown Advocate, Dec 7 2011; p3
BOTH federal Blacktown Labor MPs will vote against same-sex marriage next year.
After the ALP national conference voted to amend the Marriage Act to support gay marriage on the weekend, Chifley MP Ed Husic and Greenway MP Michelle Rowland told the Advocate they wouldn’t back the bill because their electorates overwhelming opposed it.
Blacktown state MP and NSW Opposition Leader John Robertson, whose 19-year-old son Aidan is homosexual, spoke in favour of gay marriage at the conference.
“I’ve got three kids. I’ve got a son who is gay and I want all my kids to have the same opportunities in life,” Mr Robertson told Channel 7.
Ms Rowland said that while she was opposed to making gay marriage legal she was still committed to ending the practical discrimination that many gay people faced.
She said 85 laws had been amended to remove discrimination in areas such as superannuation, immigration, child and family law.
“This is an issue where many people, including myself, hold deep views either way,” she said.
Mr Husic said the community wasn’t ready for the change.
“Personally I am not opposed, but I have to represent the views of my electorate,” he said.
“The impression I get is the community isn’t ready to embrace the concept.”
Yesterday Federal Labor MP for Melbourne Ports Michael Danby made this grand announcement on his Facebook profile:
Former West Australian Democrats Senator Brian Greig had this comment to make following the announcement of the proposed Anti-Discrimination legislation:
and also this:
I am absolutely disgusted (more than usual) with Michael Danby, a Jewish parliamentarian, spruiking a piece of bigoted legislation, claiming how wonderful it is and how better off we’ll all be and that we should be so grateful to him and his party. All this from a man who only a few months ago abstained on a vote on marriage equality because he was under pressure not to support equality for gays, yet now changes his position because he knew the June 6 Adam Bandt vote on a marriage equality bill was going to be kiboshed and isn’t likely to come up again any time soon after the federal election.
And if a Jewish parliamentarian can promote such hateful legislation, wrapped up as love and light, despite it being a small step forward, then it sends out the message that it’s ok to discriminate against gays, even when you’re from a minority that has seen the worst persecution possible.
I am fed up with his arrogance and the arrogance of his party.
So, Michael Danby has finally seen the light. He’s now 100% committed to supporting marriage equality, or the right for non-heterosexual couples to get married.
His office sent out this email yesterday, May 28 2013, confirming his revised position on his support for marriage equality.
My support for any future marriage equality bill
As I have mentioned in my previous correspondence, I have always supported the principle of marriage equality and I am extremely disappointed that Mr Abbott and the Liberal Party continue to oppose marriage equality and not allow their members a conscience vote on this issue in Parliament.
While, I abstained from the previous vote due to this refusal of the conservative parties to allow a genuine free vote on the issue, for reasons outlined in the podcast, the link of which is below, I will support any future marriage equality bill.
I hope that Mr Abbott changes his mind on this issue and allows members of his party a free conscience vote as their continual united opposition to marriage equality will ensure that any such Bill is not successful.
The podcast is of my interview with Macca (David McCarthy) on his Saturday Magazine Program on Joy FM on 25 May, announcing my support for any future Bills regarding same sex marriage.
Federal Member for Melbourne Ports
Parliamentary Secretary for the Arts
And so there you have it. Michael Danby is now fully committed to removing the discrimination in the Marriage Act that John Howard’s Government installed in 2004 that prevents same-sex couples and intersex people from getting legally married in Australia under Civil Law.
Let’s just hope Michael Danby isn’t at the opera when the next vote comes up.
Personally I think this is childish and unwarranted.
No organisation or community has EVER gone from “homophobic” to “acceptance” over night. There has always been some with an organisation who harbour their old prejudices.
But that doesn’t mean there isn’t benefit in doing SOMEthing rather than NOthing…
All this cartoon tells me is that the author has been so personally hurt by some in the JCCV that his pain is too great to see any glimmer of good in their action towards inclusive behaviour.
Perhaps my message was too subtle for Corey, so I will elaborate (although I hoped this would have been clear from the Aleph Melbourne media release issued on March 28).
The JCCV has put their name to the No To Homophobia campaign. Any ordinary person would understand this to mean that they say no to homophobia. Not just some homophobia, but all homophobia. By comparison, take the issue of anti-Semitism, which is an area of concern for the JCCV. They have the Anti-Defamation Commission to look after that for them, and through the ADC they attempt to stamp out all anti-Semitism.
Now from my humble perspective, when I read that the JCCV has signed up to No To Homophobia, I trust they are actually taking this initiative seriously and with no less concern for homophobia than they have for anti-Semitism.
But here’s the thing. There’s a big fat elephant in the room that no one wants to talk about, and that’s the biblical prohibition on homosexuality, Leviticus 18:22, that the Orthodox section of the Jewish community feel compelled to uphold. It’s about as black and white as it gets: Homosexual sex is forbidden. Now if that’s not homophobic, then nothing is. Incidentally, the Orthodox community seem to have no qualms about not stoning to death those who commit homosexual activity, as required under Leviticus 20:13, although maybe that’s because civilised societies don’t stone people to death any more (much like civilised societies aren’t actually intolerant of homosexuality any more).
I mention Leviticus 18:22 because in 2013 the Orthodox leadership in the community are steadfastly intolerant of homosexuality, and further, are intolerant of equal recognition of homosexual relationships under the law and under the religion. You may wonder why this is an issue here. Let me tell you. If the JCCV is going to call for no homophobia in the Jewish community, then this means it is calling for no intolerance of homosexual people, no intolerance of homosexual relationships and no intolerance of homosexuality.
And this is an impossible situation for the JCCV because the Orthodox member organisations of the JCCV are not suddenly going to start embracing homosexuality just because the JCCV has signed up to No To Homophobia. And further, the JCCV will willingly continue to accept the not-insubstantial membership dues (and any other financial contributions) of these organisations that are currently intolerant of homosexuality. It should be noted that the spiritual leaders of many of these organisations belong to the Rabbinical Council of Victoria, itself unaffiliated with the JCCV, that made a submission to the Australian Senate calling for the homophobic discrimination in the Marriage Act to remain in place.
There is no amount of “good-will” that the JCCV can dish up that will make any thinking person believe it is sincere about saying no to homophobia while it actively nurtures organisations that themselves are actively intolerant of homosexuality in the Jewish and wider community. It’s that simple.
Lastly, for those who say “Saying no to homophobia is a start, even if it’s just saying it” (and no, that doesn’t cut the “we don’t tolerate some anti-Semitism” test), how about the JCCV actually does something practical, like any one of these:
- Recommend all Jewish schools join up to Safe Schools Coalition Victoria
- Recommend the government doesn’t exempt religious organisations from discriminating against LGBTI people in Anti-Discrimination legislation
- Call for the removal of discrimination in the Marriage Act that prevents same-sex attracted and intersex members of the Jewish community from getting married
- Rebuking members of the community, lay and spiritual, who make public homophobic claims, such as that of Rabbi Shimon Cowen, Rabbi Chaim Ingram, Dr Miriam Grossman, Robert Weil, Ilana Leeds, and the “AJN Watch” blog. Their standard yelp “Don’t give them oxygen” simply doesn’t cut it, considering just how strongly they rebuke purveyors of anti-Semitism
- Establish a properly funded rigorous investigation into the rate of self-harm and suicide from members of the Jewish community who are struggling with their sexual orientation or gender identity
- Extend an invitation to LGBTI Jewish organisations to become members of the JCCV, as an act of goodwill (especially considering they rejected the last application from a long-established LGBTI Jewish organisation)
- Start praising the stellar work of the Progressive and Conservative Jewish communities.
I hope that this explains why the JCCV must prove that it is actually engaging with the community to break down homophobia and not just taking the lazy way out (in order to tick the “We’re LGBTI inclusive” box on government grant applications, to ensure its funding sources don’t dry up). Until then it will remain nothing more than a three-ring circus replete with puppet and clown show.
Last September my partner Gregory and I met with his federal Member of Parliament Kelly O’Dwyer to discuss her position on Marriage Equality. You can read about our meeting here.
Today in The Sydney Morning Herald it is reported:
11:31am: Over in the Federation Chamber (a parallel chamber for parliamentary business) Liberal MP Kelly O’Dwyer has told MPs she supports changing the Marriage Act to recognise same sex marriage.
“There will be some people in my family who will be disappointed,” Ms O’Dwyer says.
“”There will be others in my family who will be able to marry [if laws are changed].”
Ms O’Dwyer has been targetted by marriage equality campaigners due to the high level of support for change in her Melbourne seat.
Tellingly, Ms O’Dwyer says the Coalition party room has not yet debated what its election policy on this issue will be.
to which Gregory asked of Kelly (via Twitter):
Almost immediately after this tweet went out I saw that Kelly O’Dwyer had stated her new position on Marriage Equality:
I believe that changing the Marriage Act by extending the definition to include same-sex couples will not lessen the status of families. On the contrary, I think that it will strengthen it by building stronger bonds of commitment between two people regardless of gender and sexual orientation.
So thank you Kelly, thank you for understanding that all people deserve equal rights. Now please help Tony Abbott understand this too.